Y’all know I try and have this blog be a source of encouragement, joy and hope.
But today I’m sorta in a funk.
Is it ok if I’m real?
It’s been one too many days of intense cold + John traveling + my dog who eats anything and everything + exhausting snow days with
three kids six kids (they all had a friend spend the night) + hard conversations with hurt feelings + holiday weight gain + deadlines + having to cook dinner again = crabby, irritable mom.
We all know if Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.
And I don’t want to live like that….for me or my family.
As I was letting my obnoxious dog outside, I was struck by the paths he created in my backyard.
It reminded me of the powerful words shared many years ago when I found myself in a pit of despair when my fiancé David was killed.
My sweet friend Eileen said, “Cindy dear, you have a choice. You can allow David’s death to make you better or bitter.”
I determined regardless of my circumstances I would choose better.
The same is true today. Regardless of my frustrating circumstances, I still have a choice. I will choose better.
Here are some of the choices I’ve made today towards living better, and not bitter.
- I am choosing to view the holiday weight gain as a “setback that’s an opportunity for a comeback.” I will speak words of kindness to myself, rather than being a shaming bully. If I wouldn’t talk that way to a girlfriend, I won’t talk that way to myself either. I will not fat talk.
- I am choosing to face conflict rather than stuff it. I sent a honest email to a woman who shared hurtful words with me. Rather than numbing the pain, I am choosing to talk about it with truth and grace.
- I am choosing to take care of myself emotionally. I called a girlfriend who is wise and funny and asked her if I could tell her how I was doing, really. After sharing my frustrations, I received her words of love and encouragement.
- I am choosing to take care of myself physically. I am making food choices to nourish and strengthen my body, and getting the physical exercise I need.
- I am choosing to go to Starbucks and use the gift card I was given because, duh, I’m not perfect, and a latte just sounds good! 🙂
I love this quote from Brene Brown:
The same is true for you, my friend.
You have a choice.
You can allow the circumstances of your day to make YOU better or bitter.
You can choose to show up and be real and honest — or you can sit on the sidelines living numbed out, frustrated, joyless lives.
But the good news: Regardless of our circumstances, we always have a choice.
Let’s choose Truth. Hope. Joy. Speaking kindly and gracefully (
even especially to ourselves). Let’s choose to allow whatever circumstances we are going through to make us better and not bitter.
How are you doing today, friend? Really? How can I pray for you?
Remember — please know that you matter, and know that you are loved. (If you’ve forgotten, review here).
I’m so grateful you chose to stop by *She Sparkles*. I thank God for you!