Hey Friends –
I’ve entered a new season of Motherhood. I must confess I’m having a painfully hard time, emotionally draining time. Ugh.
You may remember my son Jake starts Aquinas College this year. His biological dad and step-mom live walking distance from his new school, and Jake moved in with them last weekend.
I’m a Psychology major who has studied “empty nest syndrome.” I’m a MOPS speaker who talks about embracing the seasons of life. I’ve read articles about moms who bawl for days when their babies go to college and thought to myself “that will never be me!”
I’ve secretly laughed at my friend’s moms who slept in their daughter’s beds when they moved out. I made it through the first day of Kindergarten with barely a sniffle or two.
Only now – not so much.
I like my little birdies right here with me!
The past week has been filled with lots of tears, grief and prayers. I’ve been in a heap on my bathroom floor. Cried in the grocery store. Can barely handle nighttime when I don’t have to leave a light on for Jake and his friends. Still look outside in the street and hope to see his truck.
Oh Lord, help me! :/
I’m super excited for Jake and this new opportunity ~ and quite surprised at my overly emotional reaction. I’m asking God to teach me through this difficult new season.
Here is what I’m learning so far…
1. Embrace this season.
Yes, it’s true, I need to embrace this season.
Just like I embraced and made it through the diaper stage, the early MOPS years, the elementary season (my favorite), and the fun high school years – this new season will have many highs and yes, some lows.
Jake and I went to Aquinas with the kiddos the other day to get some new AQ gear.
Yes, I do now own an “Aquinas Mom” shirt, and the kids all have AQ wear to support their big brother. Before I know it, hockey season will be upon us and I’ll still be a “goalie mom,” and this week I get to spend the day at Aquinas for Parent Day. Yay! 🙂
2. Feel Your Feelings
I’ll be honest, I’d rather just drink a Starbucks latte or pour myself a cold Diet Coke…. but instead I’m asking God to help me feel these feelings and not just numb out.
If I numb the pain and grief, I also numb out the joy and peace – and I’m not willing to go there. Instead I need to feel these feelings and allow myself to grieve (yuck – remember I hate goodbyes) – but I’m trying.
3. Share Your Feelings
I’m super blessed with a close circle of friends & family who have been walking with me through this season of transition. Sending notes and emails. Reminding me “I’m normal.” Praying over me (thanks Amelia & Allison) and letting me be real.
(Not to mention my husband John who has been a gem with a super emotional wife. I think we changed outfits 3 times Friday night – I just need to go for a walk. No, I need to go out. No, I need to watch a funny movie. No, I can’t be home, I need to go out. Let’s go to the movies please. Oh my! Thanks, honey!)
4. Create New Routines & Traditions
New seasons create opportunities for new routines and traditions. I stepped down from teaching Bible Study weekly this fall so I can be present and available for Jake as needed. Maybe we’ll have “Wednesday’s at Wolfgang’s” (a nearby great breakfast place) or who knows, he might even swing by for Sundae Nights.
5. Learn, Grow & Cling to Truth
New seasons are perfect opportunities for new growth. I want to be more like Jesus, and I’m asking God to teach me new, better ways to live through this transition.
I’ve added new arsenal to my belt of Truth, including verses like….
- Isaiah 30:15b – In Quietness and trust is your strength (the “Q” verse)
- Psalm 119:28 – My soul is weary with sorrow; strenghten me according to Your Word.
- Psalm 4:3 – Know that the Lord has set apart the godly for Himself, the Lord will hear when I call to Him.
- Ecclesiastes 3:1 – There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven….
How about you, friend? What season of life are you in these days? What are you learning? How are you feeling? Share with us please!
Thanks for stopping by *She Sparkles*! God’s richest blessings to you!
With a thankful, but somewhat sad heart (just keeping it real) —