Hey Friends —
One of the hardest summer challenges for me has been navigating social media — especially with my gang.
As you know, John and I are blessed with 4 kiddos — ages 10, 11, 12 & 20.
Our oldest is in Colorado for the summer, so that leaves a soon-to-be 5th grader, 6th grader, and 7th grader at home.
Most of our daily summer conversations have gone like this, or so it seems —
- “I said, ‘Put your iPpod touches away.'”
- “I don’t care if everyone has an iPhone. No.”
- “No screen time until your chores are done.”
- “If I see your iPod one more time, it’s gone for a week.”
Am I the only one?!
I’ve spent this summer studying, implementing, reworking, praying, talking to other moms, pinning, & praying more. Here’s what I’ve learned so far.
3 Tips for Surviving Social Media with Kids
1. Set Boundaries
If clear boundaries are not set, my kids would text/play mine craft/face time all day long. AHHHH!
Boundaries we’ve set include:
- Time limits (chores first, limited time, etc.)
- No technology in bedrooms
- Phones/iPods go in Mom’s basket when friends come over (have you ever noticed you’ll have 4 kids together and they’ll all be texting each other rather than talking.) Crazy!
- Sign a Social Media Contract. I found a great one here. (You can download it for free.)
- Passwords must be known by a parent at all times, and yes, I will check, read, be in your business, and stalk you on-line. Get used to it. 🙂
2. Stay Involved
As I mentioned, yes, I read their texts, posts, Instagram pictures, etc. (so far only our boys are allowed on Instagram since they are older). I am that mom.
It drives my oldest son Jake crazy — but, yes, I do stalk my children.
I’ve also found it very helpful to discuss social media with other involved moms to learn about apps to stay away from, websites to watch out for, etc.
In fact, last night over ice cream we read this book together as a family. Good stuff!
What ways have you found work best to stay involved with what your kids are doing on-line? I’d love to learn from you too!
3. Share Kindness
In our new “selfie generation,” (read this!) I’m trying to survive social media by reminding my gang to use social media for good.
Rather than only playing games and taking selfies, I remind my kids to share kindness through social media. I’m asking,
And yes, they usually roll their eyes at me — but I’ve also seen them leave some group chats that were headed south quickly.
And remember “The Grandma Rule”: “If you wouldn’t show it, say it, or text it to grandma, don’t post, type, or send it!”
Additionally, I’ve learned I need to model healthy social media skills myself.
For more Social Media Strategies with Kids, check out my Pinterest page here.
Your turn, friends!
How are you navigating the ever-changing world of social media, especially with our children?
Are there apps you’ve found to be helpful — or not so much — with your kids?
Do you set time limits or boundaries? Stalk your kids on-line? I’d love to hear from you!
Thanks so much for stopping by, sweet friend! Have a wonderful, joy-filled weekend!
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